episode 72 Changing the world
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[00:00:00] Welcome to Permission to be Human, the podcast. I'm your host Mel Findlater, mother, coach, and curator of Permission to be Human, the company and community. If you're a mom, know a mom, or want to be a mom, and you crave getting out in the world to make a difference, then you're in the right place. This is a space for moms like you to connect with yourself, your purpose, and your big audacious dreams.
Because when you feel your best, you can better you, your family, and the wider world. Let's do this.
Mel: Welcome back everyone. We are doing another solo episode today. With just me having a conversation with you. About changing the world. And I've really wanted to tap into this topic because.
This phrase. I want to change the world has come up. [00:01:00] So often in my life and it comes from this real deep. Yearning. Too. Go out and make a difference. And perhaps you can relate. Do you walk through life? Like I do and look around and think. You see the problems you think you see the things that aren't right. That aren't working the way they should. And you're like, but I can also see that. What it should be.
Right. I see the way it could be. Uh, or perhaps. You walk through life and you see. The things that are great and you're thinking, oh, we need more of this. We need to add more of this to the world. And I've always, always had this craving to go out and change the world. And. I started to adapt this phrase a little bit recently because I'm like, is it changing the world [00:02:00] that I really want?
Is it.
Making a difference. That I really want. That is a hundred percent there. But whatever we want to call it. The fact is that. We want to go out and make a difference. And I realized more and more as I've. Met lots of people as I've read lots of books as I've. You know, learned throughout my years on this earth. That we all crave this. Right. And I have this quote right next to me right now.
Um, if you're ever in my office, I should do a little video of what my office looks like. Because I have sticky notes everywhere. And I have signs that I've like reminders that I've put up everywhere, a little quotes and things that I want to remember. And one of them next to me right now that I've read quite a bit recently. Is by someone called Rebecca Goldstein. [00:03:00] And it says we, we are matter. That yearn to matter.
I going to repeat that. We are matter. That yearn to matter. And I really strongly identify with this phrase and it makes me feel like, oh, it's not just me. And that gives me hope that if each and every single one of us does. The little things. Yes, these big audacious dreams, but also the little things every day. That make a difference that.
Help us feel like we matter that because they do matter in the world, that could be from the tiniest things of like, Going plastic free or, you know, planting your own garden to grow vegetables, or, you know, you can go all the way through to building a business, building a community. [00:04:00] You know, so many different things that we can do. To make a difference in the world.
And it all comes down to this fact that we yearn to matter. We are matter that yearn to matter.
And. There are times along this journey. That I've felt that I was alone in that, and that.
Um, am I the only one? That sees these things. Am I the only one that thinks that the world could be different? Am I, the only one that thinks that I it's my job to go out there and. And fix it. Right. And well, There's definitely some savior complex. In there that I worked through in multiple therapy sessions. There's also this beauty to it. Right.
There's this beauty to the fact that what I really want is to feel like I matter. And the way I will feel like I matter is to go and make a difference so that other people see that they [00:05:00] matter. You know, I walk around the world and I look at all these people and I think. You know, you're sad or you're frustrated or you're. You're, you're not seeing the incredibleness.
That is you. You're not seeing the power that you have to go and make a difference. Right. And I know we're busy and at full capacity, my brain sometimes feels like it's going to explode. Simply from the everyday tasks that I end things I have to hold inside of it. And remember, For, you know, appointments for kids and for me and all the things. And.
If we do the little things.
They matter. And then we met her, right? Those, those things, those little things that we do with, and for our kids, they matter. Right. You matter. [00:06:00] Hi matter. We are all better. That yearns to matter. So what I think I just wanted to do this really quick episode two.
I guess. Let you.
No that remind you that you matter. And the choices that you make matter and that you can go out and make that difference. And it's, if we all did those little things, With the wider world. In our context with the, you know, what are we doing to make this place? A better world for our kids when they grow up. If everything we do is with that in the back of our mind. Without overthinking it without over pressuring ourselves, but we simply take those little tiny steps then. It is then that we're going to change the world together.
You know, it takes one.
So.
That's me for today. Thanks for listening co. [00:07:00] And changed the world one little tiny step at a time.
You know when you have that dream or that idea and you hold it really tight and you don't really want to share it with anyone until you have it just right until you are absolutely assured that it is exactly what you want it to be but you also know deep down inside that it is unlikely to get perfect it is unlikely to get to exactly where you want it to be unless you share it with others.
It's when we share it with other people that we get the energy and the momentum. It is when we get feedback. It is when we start to iterate inside of our own minds. We need to get it out of our bodies and into the world in some sort of way. And talking to someone who will cheer you on is exactly The first step.
Now, if you can't think of anybody in your [00:08:00] life that you would love to share your dream with in this raw stage where you're not gonna get the words right and you're worried that they're gonna come back to you and be, yeah, but or ooh, what if? Don't share with those people. If you can't think of who to share it with, then I want to be that person for you.
Totally complimentary, I am launching the Dream Haven and it is a simple message back and forth concept where you tell me your dream and I cheer you on and tell you exactly how amazing I think it is. I can be that safe space for you and your dreams to grow into whatever they're going to grow. It's going to grow.
totally complimentary. It remains your dream, not mine. And I would absolutely love and be honored by being that person who gets to hear it first. So head on over to permissiontobehuman. ca slash the [00:09:00] dash dream dash haven. And let's get this going. Because your dream deserves to be out there in the world.
It could be a project. It could be a business. It could be the change that you really want to see in the world. It could be an adventure that you really want to go on. You got this. Let's hear about it. Again, all you have to do is head on over to permissiontobehuman. ca slash the dash dream dash haven and put your details in and you'll get a video personalized back from me inviting you to take our next step.
That is it, folks. This has been Mel Findlater on Permission to Be Human, the podcast, and I am so glad that you have joined us here today and hope that you have taken away some tidbits that will help you go away, connect with your big audacious dream, and make that massive impact in the world that you are dying to make.
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Yes, this is a newer podcast, so I want to hear from you and I want to make [00:11:00] it what would be useful to you. As always, remember that you have permission to dream big, permission to feel big, and permission to be you. You have complete and full permission to be human. For real, you do.
