Episode 53 - anniversary week Tapping with Jewell
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This is how Jewell describes herself. Jewell Siebert is a bestselling author, coach and EFT. Tapping practitioner. Graduate of the United States military academy at west point, Jewell combines the lessons she learned over her 23 year career in the military was scientifically proven neuro somatic techniques. [00:06:00] Her big audacious dream is to help kids be more confident, resilient, and kind.
So they grow into successful adults who make our world better.
So stick around.
Mel: Hi Jewell hello. I was just saying to you Jewell that I'm so excited to have you here and hear your story, which sounds, I'm very intrigued by, as well as, you know, going into this world of tapping that, I've, I've heard of, but don't know a ton about. So I feel like it'll be really informative, but also really useful for the audience here today.
So thanks for coming.
Jewell: Awesome. Thank you for having me. I'm so excited. I love it's so nice. It was so nice to meet you the other day. And I love talking about tapping, so it's. Fun, fun, win, win. That's awesome. So tell us about you. Who's who's [00:07:00] Jewell. Yeah. So, these days I do coaching and tapping EFT, tapping with people.
I'm, I'm a reservist now, but I spent. The first 14 years of my adult life as an active duty army officer, well, I went to, I went to West Point in New York, the military academy for four years and then graduated and was an army officer for 14 years. And then I decided to make a change and I got out, I got out when my daughter was born.
And It really shifted my priorities for me, like literally that moment, because I had been debating whether to get out or stay in. And I just realized like what my focus wanted to be. And I wasn't a hundred, a hundred percent happy, you know, when [00:08:00] you're doing something and you like, I say, it's like when you make all the right decisions, but you realize they weren't the right ones for you.
Mel: And
Jewell: so. I don't want to continue down that path anymore, because I have someone to look up to me and someone to care for and I don't want to be away from her for extended periods of time. doing work that wasn't like in my heart. Like I love it, but it wasn't my one thing. And I didn't want to give up that for something that wasn't my one thing.
That wasn't that happy. Yeah.
Mel: Yeah. Thank you for sharing that. It really hits home. That phrase that you said that Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And I think we can all identify with that at some point in our life that, you know, there are these quote unquote right decisions that, [00:09:00] that we follow this path and you know, it sounds like to you, it got to this point where you're like, Oh, was that for me or not?
Yeah. Yeah. Sure.
Jewell: Yeah, it's hard to know though, because I think once you put so much time and effort into a career or, you know, any project in your life, like. Choosing to pivot is messy and I don't think it's, I don't think it's an easy choice, at least it wasn't for me. It was not an easy choice because you've given so much.
Yeah,
Mel: yeah. Yeah, time, energy, just like mental capacity into like figuring out how to make that life work.
Jewell: Yeah. I, I was lucky because I had the option, like when I left active duty, I joined the reserves. So I still get to continue that. It's just not all day every day. And it's in a way that's [00:10:00] more compatible, you know, or it was more compatible with what I wanted.
Yeah.
Mel: Brilliant. So you're a mom as well then. And how old's your daughter?
Jewell: She's nine. Oh my gosh. I can't believe it. Yeah.
Mel: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And so like, where, where did things go from there then?
Jewell: Oh gosh, I was so lost. I was so lost. I struggled. I really did. I, I took, so I didn't have a full time job for a few years.
Like I was living on savings and, I, I tried starting side, some side business blogging, which I was not great at at all. But I, I've stumbled into well, I stumbled into this program. Are you familiar with the chicken soup for the soul book series? [00:11:00] Yeah. Okay. So Jack Canfield, I, I saw he was doing I love his work and he was doing a certification program and it was like how to teach the success principles and how to, how to set goals and achieve more.
And I thought, well, If I learn about this stuff and I learn how to meditate and set goals and reach these goals, then I can teach it to my daughter. So I went to this program. I was like, she'll be so far ahead. And so I went to this program, not thinking it would lead to anything professionally and discovered that I love doing the work.
And this is like, my heart just felt like, Oh, and it was it. And that's where I learned about tapping and started down that road. And that's where I just figured out what was in my heart to do. So there's a total fluke, you know, it's, it stayed a side [00:12:00] business for a long time. And you know, I'm just, just now starting to dive into it to transition full time.
So I think the lesson in there for me was, you know, we see a lot of, you know, Stories, how people are like, I did this in like six months and whatever. And it's not always like that, at least it wasn't for me. And that's fine. It can, it can be messy and imperfect and, you know, just work in a way that's good for you.
Yeah.
Mel: Yeah, I think you're so right in that and, you know, what comes to my mind is this. You say it's a total fluke, but it wasn't. It was an intentional opening of your mind to other possibilities, right? Yeah. And I don't know if you've ever done your character strengths before, but I'm guessing one of yours is probably love of learning.[00:13:00]
Yes. Yeah. Right? So, I highly recommend, I just did an episode with someone else on the, on the via character strength circles, but, you know, love of learning is what I hear in what you're, you're saying to me, is that you're like, you opened your mind, opened your body, whatever, to this concept that something else could be out there for you.
learning whatever comes your way and that led to this, to this, to this, to this, and to where you are now, right? Yeah.
Jewell: Yeah. That's really accurate. Yeah.
Mel: It's kind of beautifully imperfect. And that's what our journeys are. And I think it's so important to share stories like yours and the way you just described it, because you're right.
Like if, if we, if we, If we base our assumptions on the stories we see on Facebook, especially for those out there like us who, you know, [00:14:00] have dabbled in the online business world, right? We see like, make six figures in six months and, you know, and it makes us feel like that is the way that most people work.
And actually it's not. Most people, it is one little step after another little step. And, One decision of opening up our minds and bodies and spirits and whatever to the concept of something else. Not knowing what that is and it's kind of scary. Yeah. It is scary and terrifying at times and exciting and all the different feelings.
But it gets us there.
Jewell: It is. What you just said about being scary reminded me, I was when I was leaving active duty, I was meeting some friends for lunch and they were, they weren't to the military and they said, well, you, you deployed, cause I, I deployed four times and they're like, you deployed four [00:15:00] times, like, wasn't going to war the scariest thing you experienced.
And I'm like, The scariest thing I'm experiencing is leaving the military. Like I am terrified because I don't know what to expect, you know, and it's just the, the uncertainty of, of how we navigate our lives can bring up a ton of fear. Yeah. A ton.
Mel: Yeah. Yeah. You're so right. And you know, you add a kid in the mix of that.
Yeah, exactly. Talk about uncertainty and not knowing what to expect. Oh
Jewell: my goodness. I questioned myself every day if I was being selfish. I'm like, what's more selfish? Like having a stable income or, you know, not being true to myself and being unhappy and being away. Like what, what is the most selfish?
Cause kids change everything. Like I know that's so cliche, right? But it's so true. Yeah.
Mel: [00:16:00] Yeah. And you know, they open up our mind to again, another possibility. And and that can be really scary. Yeah. And that's okay. Yeah. You know, the best things kind of are scary. It's like if you looked at the, the comfort zone, kind of stretch zone type image, you know, kids put us in our stretch zone and sometimes into our red zone, the further like, ah, also like, you know, this, this transitions in our life, children being one change of career being another, that's, that's what stretches us.
Yeah. Thanks. Yeah. Helps us be who we are. Totally agree. Yeah. Cool. So you were, you know, you had this stable job that you, you know, you liked, but maybe didn't love. You weren't sure, you know, you're kind of, and then, and then you decided to make this shift in your life. Did a [00:17:00] bunch of learning, had a kid.
Yeah. Found this passion of, of, Tapping and EFT and, and I'm wondering, you know, where are you at with that now? Like what's the big dream at this point in your life?
Jewell: It's so ironic and I don't know if ironic is the right word, but Dang it, Alanis Morissette but the right, the craziest thing about this, this is one of the first times I'm sharing the, the next part of the big dream in public. So I think that's why, that's why it's getting a little stuck. I'm very excited about it and also a little scared and self conscious.
So that's where I am. But, my big dream is to expand on where I'm bringing tapping. So I do tapping. I've been doing tapping for years with women entrepreneurs and [00:18:00] helping them with limiting beliefs and self love. It all comes down to self love, like honestly, underneath everything is self love.
And now I'm expanding to bring it to children too. I'm so excited about that. And I've been. I've been dreaming about this. Like I made, I applied to this Bob Evans grant competition years ago with this idea, but I've always been sitting on it thinking, well, this someday when I'm better someday when I'm better, I'll, I'll, I'll start working with kids.
So I finally, someone helped me see that someday, someday is now like, you know, it's, I'm just scared, but I, I see. My dream is to help them, handle school stress, peer pressure, bullying, just anxiety. And especially with like all the violence in schools these [00:19:00] days, like there was, I've been having all these little pop ups, like things just coming up, you know?
And I know we noticed. We notice more of what we're thinking of, but like all these little needs for kids and, you know, we don't learn these tools. I didn't learn these tools when I was a kid, and I think it can help them so much. If, if they can learn how to manage their big emotions and to be more confident in themselves as children, it can help them speak up for themselves more, you know, not make all the crap decisions like I made in my life, you know, like, you know, like just have such is going to sound, I don't even care if it sounds crazy, but I really think that by helping them learn these skills and learn to love themselves in early age can make our world a better place.
Because the more people love, yeah, [00:20:00] yeah, so, oh, yeah, there's my goose bumps. I just, that's my big dream. That's my big dream. Yeah.
Mel: I am so excited about that big dream. You know, as a mom with a variety of anxiety in the people in my life, I can testify for the fact that kids need this. Humans need this. We all need this.
Right. But the, you know, it's so exciting to start at the kid age because then you're giving them a lifelong skill. Yeah. You're, you're, their brains are growing at such a fast rate that if we can build those neural pathways of, you know, regulation now and self love, as you say now, like just imagine what amazing people are going to come out of it, right?
Right.
Jewell: Ah. Absolutely.
Mel: Absolutely. Yeah. And resilience takes on a whole nother phrase and way [00:21:00] of looking at it when they've already kind of built that up from that young age. Yeah, that's so exciting. So here's what I want to, so I can see you right now. Yes. And the people listening probably can't, though it may be up at some point on a video, but when you were talking about it getting stuck in you, this idea, you, you did something with your hands.
Can you describe what you did?
Jewell: Absolutely. So I was tapping on the heel of my hand. And if you, the heel of your hand is the part, like if you imagine somebody chopping a piece of wood with their hands, you know, they call it the karate chop point. But if you imagine like chopping a piece of wood with your hand, that side part, I was tapping on that.
And that is where an acupressure point is located. And that's one of the tapping points. So I was tapping on [00:22:00] it, like calm down.
Mel: That's like one of the calm down type points then.
Jewell: Yeah. Yeah. EFT EFT in general, the whole thing it does is turns off your body's fight, flight, freeze, fawn response. You know, most people are familiar with fight flight.
There's two other aspects to it too, but you know, we call it the fight flight response. And it, it tells your nervous system. I'm safe. You know, whatever's triggering you doesn't have to trigger you. And then your body stops producing the stress hormones and starts, you know, your parasympathetic nervous system kicks in and your body's like, Oh, I'm safe, whatever.
So that's how we physically calm down when tapping these points.
Mel: Yeah. Brilliant. And, and just like something physical to do. Right, getting us out of that, often, you know, our heads are spinning in that [00:23:00] time of, of fight and flight, like, our body is responding, full body, but where we are at is in our head, just like thinking about the fact that our body is responding.
Yes. Yeah. And I'm just thinking of how useful it could be in times where, so for example, I was just at the walk in clinic because I, I was sharing with you before without sharing too much of my, my kid's story. We were there and I needed to share something. Once I, my numbers called, I needed to tell them why we were there.
And it was something that was brought up because I feel quite vulnerable in that situation. It brought, I could feel all of the emotion coming up. Right. And I'm like, this is not the appropriate time right now to burst into tears. Right. And, and I was able to, with minimal tears, just explain what I needed, sit back down.
And then I needed in that moment. Some sort of technique to calm myself enough to then go in to wait and then [00:24:00] go talk to a doctor about what we were going to talk about, right? Yes. And, you know, because, yes, permission to be human, it's okay that I have those feelings, all those things. In that moment, they're not helping me.
Like, they are helping me, but I needed to get, I needed to get it across. I needed to not feel like a hysterical mom who was there for no reason, you know? Right. Right. So I can picture tapping. So for me, I actually did some a little bit of grounding work. I just thought of my feet and where they were on the ground.
And you know, got into my body in that way. But it sounds like tapping is a really great alternative to, use in a time like that. Yes.
Jewell: Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. Because when we get triggered with the stress response, you know, our, our limbic, our limbic systems in charge, the limbic system, part of our brain and the prefrontal cortex, like resources and blood are diverted from that.
Like that's not in charge. So if you are trying to communicate [00:25:00] something, it's very hard. Yeah. So you can absolutely do tapping. And if I could share. Like you don't even have to do a full tapping sequence and that point, like a lot of times if I'm in a situation like that where I don't want to be like going through all the motions, I'll just like squeeze on one of those points.
So you can, you can do it very discreetly because a lot of the points like. What people don't even realize is we naturally touch these points whenever we're stressed, like that self is soothing to our body. So you could be tapping or touching these points and applying pressure and breathing and just like soothing your body very discreetly.
Mel: Yeah, yeah, which is fantastic. So let's say again, for those who couldn't see what you were just doing, because I saw you doing it while you were doing it. Let's say, you know, that [00:26:00] story that I just shared, I'm sitting there in the middle of a very small, very busy little waiting room full of people, trying to, you know, get back into my body, be able to use my thinking brain again.
What physically could I have done with my body to, to get myself back into that space that I needed to be in?
Jewell: So you can, and you can either like tap on these points or, or just press on them. Like sometimes I'll just press on them. So I'll tell you where they are. The heel of the hand that we talked about.
You could, it's the top of your head. Like if you were to take your fingers and put them on your ears and trace the line to the top of your head, in your, on your eyebrows, like on the inside, above your nose, there's tapping points there, so you could like even rub on those outside on your temple, like it's,
Mel: it's.
Jewell: Like we do this all the time, we're up on the outside of our temple. Like that's an acupressure point under the eye [00:27:00] here. If you want to be there's a point on the chin, like under the lip, but above the bump on your chin, that's a point you could just like, if you're sitting there, you could just like, like that, whatever.
And if you go to your collarbone and then a couple inches down and out, like those tender spots, you could just. And it's very natural to be standing there and like tapping or touching these parts of your body. So like, you could, if, if you're like, I don't, most of the time I don't mind if I'm like tapping in public because whatever people are so focused on themselves.
Nobody pays attention really, but like there are some times when I do not want to do this in front of everybody. So I'll just, you know, naturally touch those points.
Mel: Yeah.
Jewell: And nobody knows.
Mel: Brilliant. Yeah. Even just like touching them just briefly that I just said, I'm like, Oh, my body feels better. Right.
Yeah, totally. And so, you know, we're [00:28:00] describing this in a way that is almost like an emergency first aid kit. Right? Like, I need to get this sorted right now. I'm curious because I, I believe the answer is yes. If there's another way, like, how else do you use EFT? Explain it to us. Like, what's the science of it?
Yes, we can use it as this emergency first aid, but you know, you mentioned working with women entrepreneurs on their self love and limiting beliefs. That's, you know, that's not necessarily emergency. That's more preventative. So share a little bit more about like EFT and how it works. Yeah. Yeah.
Jewell: So it's amazing.
It, it lets us rewire the neural pathways in our brain. So that means that we can take beliefs that we have about ourselves, like low confidence or things, even things like phobias or, cravings. [00:29:00] Or so many things, there's so many things, we could take those and change them. We can change our core beliefs about ourselves.
And the way it works is that when we have experiences in our lives, especially like early in life, you know, cause before the age of six, we aren't making that, that much like alpha and beta brainwaves. Like we're in super learning mode. So we absorb a lot from our caregivers and. Even throughout life experiences, we have less than ideal experiences.
We have get encoded in our brains and our limbic system assigns emotions to it. So we will go through our day and say, we're afraid of public speaking, or we're afraid of, I don't know, having difficult conversations, but subconsciously we're getting triggered. And our brain is like, Oh, this is a threat.
I need to react. I go into fight, flight, freeze response. [00:30:00] Well, when we tap, we're telling our brain, we're tapping on these points and it's like a mix of different, it's, you know, somatic procedure. We're tapping on the acupuncture points, you know, people are familiar with acupuncture, but we're tapping on the acupoints and it's and using cognitive behavioral theory and letting our bodies know that we can have these triggering experiences, these triggering inputs, but we are safe.
Cause this is tapping on these points. It's very soothing to our body. And there's a ton of scientific research. Like there's, there are so many studies happening and there's like hundreds of them showing, you know, it's not just a placebo effect. What, what happens when we tap is that our brain, the, the parasympathetic nervous system takes over and we stop making all these stress hormones.
And so our body is like, Oh, I'm [00:31:00] safe. I'm having the stimulus, but I'm safe. And if you do it ahead of time, like not in the moment, but you do it ahead of time and you can address what experiences. In the past triggered you and what triggers you in the future, you can create new neural pathways so that when you experience these things in the future, you're not triggered with the same intensity or, you know, it can, it can take like multiple sessions or it can take a session, you know, it just depends.
But. You know, you can do it ahead of time so that your brain is already prepped to feel safe when you experience it in the future.
Mel: Mm.
Jewell: That's so cool.
Mel: on your face right now. It's so cool. I love it. . Yeah, it's like play, right? And yeah, I mean, it's, it's. And if you look at it, [00:32:00] it's like magic, is what you're describing, in a very scientific way.
You know? Yeah. Oh yeah. Our bodies are wonderful things and they are designed, like the fact to me that our bodies were created to have these points, right? They're created to say, no, like, it's okay. You can, you can help me calm down. Yeah. You know, cause it's, I, I find it's really easy to get frustrated with like, why is my body designed to think that there's a lion chasing me when all it is, is like, I haven't gotten out the door on time.
Right. Or whatever. Yes. But what you're giving us in me is another, another version of that story, which is look, your body was designed to be able to think that the lion's chasing you and still calm down. Yeah. Yeah. Just needs. You know, we've, we've got these, these methods that will help us along the way.
Jewell: [00:33:00] Yeah.
Mel: And that's kind of magical.
Jewell: It is. Did you know, can I tell you one more thing? It's so cool. Our body, even the stress response in itself is designed to help us suit. Like when we go into stress, like we crave community we crave. And so we will reach out to people and, you know, get that oxytocin boost.
Like there's self soothing mechanisms built in. In our physiology, it's just, it's just amazing. It blows my mind.
Mel: Yeah. Agreed. There's so many just amazing things. I was, yeah. My mind is going to this. I was just listening to the recent we can do hard things episode, the Boyle's podcast. If you, if nobody's listened to that, I highly recommend it.
It's like my favorite podcast. Yeah. But and they were talking about internal family systems, I think it's called and how we're all, we have different parts of [00:34:00] ourself and we can talk to the different parts. And I'm just like combining that in my brain with what you're talking about. And it's just like how, how it's.
You know, if, if one of our parts is worry, for example, like, why is, what, what's worry doing there is trying to keep us safe. It's trying to calm us. It's trying to, you know, it's not there to be a pain in the ass. Yeah.
Jewell: Yeah. Like it's actually there to help us. Yes.
Mel: Yeah,
Jewell: it was. It's there because at some point we were hurt from something, you know, either we were embarrassed or, you know, whatever we actually, there's a lot of parts work in tapping to it's like really effective, especially for inner critic, because exactly why you said.
Mel: Yeah. Yeah. And it's like, I don't know. I almost think of it as like a little child then my worry would be this little child that's just like, please pay attention to me. Right. [00:35:00] It's like, yeah. How can
Jewell: you be mad at that? Yes. Yeah. That's, that's actually so I'm, I'm doing a lot of my own like inner child work and that is spot on.
Yeah. That work has been. The biggest game changer for me personally, it's just what you said, like the scared little piece of you, the scared little part of you. And that working with that version of me, that piece of me has, I've done a complete one 80 on so many things. And I, I don't feel like I'm done.
Like, I feel like I'm still, you know, I'm still doing the work, but Every little bit just brings so many benefits just because a lot of times I think too, we're like ashamed of those parts of ourselves or we beat, we beat up those parts of ourselves.
Mel: Yeah.
Jewell: And those parts of ourselves are the way they are because [00:36:00] they've already been beaten up.
Like we don't need to keep hurting ourselves.
Mel: Yeah.
Jewell: And we push them away,
Mel: right? Yes. Push away. The more worry comes, we're like, I want to just get it out and just go away. But if that's a little kid, like us parents know that, like, the more we push them away, the tighter they cling, right? Because they're saying, no, I have a message for you.
I need to tell you something I don't feel safe or whatever it is. So actually give them a little hug.
Jewell: Absolutely. Tapping the hug. Yeah. I feel like that's a great analogy. It is. It is. It is.
Mel: It is. Oh, my mind's going weird. Yeah, awesome. I love it. Okay, so we know what EFT is. And I'm really excited because you've agreed, Jewell, to the day that this is released, when people are listening to this, we're also going to be going live and [00:37:00] you're going to actually do some tapping with me and anybody who wants to, like, come in and listen and do it alongside which is amazing.
So I'm really excited to experience that and put another tool in my toolbox and, you know, and. Through me, my children and whoever else I end up working with and those people listening, you know, so thank you for that. Yeah. Thank you. And so we always finish with one question, which is if you had one tip to give to the mothers who are listening who are so keen to get out there and make a difference in the world, have these big audacious dreams, or want to have these big audacious dreams and aren't sure you know what they are yet, what tip would you give them?
Jewell: So my tip would be
[00:38:00] practice. Self forgiveness, and I realized that might seem kind of weird when we're talking about going after dreams, because what does forgiving myself have to have to do with anything? But my response would be everything because we tend to be very hard on ourselves. We're much harder on ourselves than we are on anybody else.
And that blocks us in a lot of ways. Cause number one, it wastes a lot of time and energy. And when we are beating ourselves up and holding onto our mistakes, then we are not allowing ourselves to move forward. You know, it's, if we don't like ourselves or feel worthy of even self compassion, we're not going to feel worthy for the things that we want to receive.
And practicing self forgiveness, [00:39:00] you know, it doesn't have to happen overnight. It's something that I work on, a lot. Actually I just made a tapping on it today because I was like, I am so stuck in this area. I was so mad at myself, but just remember you're doing everyone does the best they can given the tools, knowledge, information, and skills they have at the time.
If we could do better, we would have. But are you're doing the best that you can, and so have some grace and compassion for yourself and find a way to forgive yourself because the kinder you are to yourself, the kinder you'll be. to everyone else and the more you can give and receive. It's
Mel: beautiful.
Thank you. Thank you. Okay. So if people are like, I'm, I'm intrigued. I want to find out more. I want to, I want to get in touch with you, Jewell. I have all these things that I need to tap. Where would they find [00:40:00] you?
Jewell: So, I'm on all the socials as we do, right? So I'm on, I have a website, julesiebert. com, or you can look up Tapping with Jewell 2 L's
I'm on Instagram, Facebook videos on YouTube. So yeah, send me a message. I love, I love tapping and talking tapping.
Mel: Did I
Jewell: mention tapping?
Mel: I love it. Okay. so much Jewell for joining us. Thank you.
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